1:1 Individual therapy
Trauma-informed Therapy for Anxious, Deeply Feeling Souls
therapy for people struggling with anxiety, over-thinking, people-pleasing, self-esteem, perfectionism, PMS / PMDD, loneliness, relationship challenges, breakups, and more.
You hold yourself to impossibly high standards and are your harshest critic. You may be high-achieving, hyper-responsible, or constantly striving— and struggle with stress, burnout, self-doubt, "imposter syndrome," shame, or the feeling that you’re not enough. Together, we'll help you slow down and soften without collapsing, understand your nervous system & stress response, practice self-compassion instead of self-criticism, and feel more grounded, connected, and at ease in your life.
PERFECTIONISm & performance anxiety
Maybe you're grieving someone who was once your home, letting go of a future you thought was certain, and trying to figure out who you are now & where you're going. Grief, anger, relief, feeling lost... are all normal. Together, we'll help you heal, rediscover what you want, and move forward with greater confidence, clarity, and self-trust. This chapter may be ending, but your story isn't over & what's next can feel expansive, meaningful, and full of possibility.
Breakups / divorce
You may feel anxious, unseen, emotionally drained, or like you're always giving more than you receive. Fear of rejection, abandonment, or conflict avoidance may keep you stuck in patterns that leave you feeling disconnected, unfulfilled, or alone. Together, we'll heal the deeper roots of these patterns and create a new blueprint for relationships—one built on self-worth, healthy boundaries, emotional safety, and secure, fulfilling connection.
Relationship challenges & Loneliness
You may find yourself crying for no reason, feeling emotionally sensitive, questioning everything, wanting to withdraw from the world... Anxiety, sadness, irritability, and self-criticism can become so intense that you barely recognize yourself. Therapy helps you make sense of these emotional waves, and navigate your monthly cycle with greater understanding, self-compassion, and support.
Cycle-Related Mood Changes (PMS / PMDD)
You say yes when you mean no, absorb and take responsibility for everyone else's emotions, and are conflict avoidant, fearing disappointing others more than you fearing losing yourself. Therapy helps you stop abandoning yourself to keep the peace, reconnect with your needs and voice, and learn that you can be loving, honest, and deeply caring without losing yourself in the process.
People-Pleasing & self-esteem
You may feel stuck in a constant cycle of overthinking, worrying, second-guessing yourself, and trying to anticipate every possible outcome. Together, we'll uncover the deeper patterns driving your anxiety, understand your nervous system & stress response, help you quiet the mental noise, trust yourself more deeply, and move through life with greater calm, confidence, and ease.
ANXIETY
& OVERTHINKING
Each of these is a doorway into the same core healing — building higher self-esteem and self-love, and reconnecting to your worth, your voice, and the life you actually want.
The Most Common Reasons Clients Come In
Frequently Asked Questions >
I integrate many therapy approaches, and draw heavily on Internal Family Systems Therapy / parts work
Who long for lives & relationships where they can finally exhale—where connection feels genuine, love feels secure, and being themselves is enough.
Who are ready to feel unshakeable confidence & create a wildly authentic life that's deeply connected, peaceful, and free.
for the women who...
Cassandra Amantite | *herapist, MS, AMFT
Trauma-informed therapy for anxious, self-doubting women who feel stuck in patterns of...
people-pleasing-perfecting-performing
overthinking, overgiving, overfunctioning
that leave them feeling exhausted and disconnected from themselves.
Some are exhausted by their own minds —
the anxiety, self-doubt, the overthinking, the perfectionism
that never lets them rest....
Some give endlessly to others and struggle to give anything to themselves...
Some people-please, perform, over-explain, and apologize
for taking up space...
Some feel anxious, disconnected from themselves, or stuck in relationship patterns they can't seem to break...
Common Reasons Women Come In
You didn't come into the world people-pleasing. You didn't arrive anxious, self-doubting, or convinced you were too much or not enough. Those patterns were learned — usually very early, as a way to stay connected & loved for survival.
The good news: what was learned can be unlearned. And with the right support, what got buried can be found again.
Quiet the mental noise and finally get off the exhausting overthinking hamster wheel.
Reconnect with your needs, values, and ushakable
self-worth and self-confidence
Trust yourself instead of second-guessing every decision.
Build healthier, more fulfilling, mutually giving relationships instead of overgiving and self-sacrifice
Feel confident saying "no" without guilt and owning your "yes" with joy.
Move from survival mode to a life that feels aligned, peaceful, fully ALIVE and your own.
What Becomes Possible
Transform your relationship with yourself - so you can show up in your life, your relationships, and your own skin without the constant weight of anxiety, self-doubt, or the fear that you're too much or not enough.
"There is no force more powerful than a woman determined to rise"
"Our world needs women who are dangerously awake, fully alive, and unified in heart and purpose"
Yet so many of us have been taught to prioritize being liked over being authentic, needed over being nourished, and agreeable over being fully ourselves.
My work is about helping women come home to themselves—to their voice, their worth, their truth, and the life they actually want to live.
I warmly welcome and celebrate people of all cultures, backgrounds, identities, beliefs, relationship structures, and lived experiences.
I believe women are incredibly resilient, intuitive,
and powerful.
Frequently Asked Questions >
I offer standing, recurring weekly therapy appointment times. This means you’ll have a dedicated spot reserved in my schedule just for you. You can come into my Santa Rosa office, do video sessions, or a hybrid.
ONGOING SESSIONS
If we decide to move forward, you'll receive an intake form and we'll schedule your first session - where we can connect deeply, explore your story, and begin mapping out where you are, where you want to be, and our journey ahead.
FORMS & 1ST APPOINTMENT
A free 15 minute call where we'll talk about what's bringing you into therapy, answer your questions, and get a feel for whether we're a good fit. No pressure. No commitment. Just a real, honest conversation.
CONSULTATION CALL
Your Path to Healing & Wholeness Starts Here
the therapy process
Read more about IFS >
INTERNAL FAMILY SYSTEMS (IFS) / PARTS WORK
My approach is trauma-informed, holistic, and deeply personalized. I draw from multiple evidence-based approaches and weave them together in a way that honors the whole of who you are: mind, body, heart, and soul. I'm genuine, warm, and deeply compassionate. I'll laugh with you, sit in the hard moments with you, and gently challenge you when it's time.
My Therapy Approach
You do not have to earn your worth. You do not have to prove yourself to deserve love. And you do not have to abandon yourself to belong.
My path to becoming a therapist wasn't just professional—it was deeply personal. I've spent a lot of my life trying to be who I thought everyone else wanted me to be.
I was the good girl. The responsible one. The achiever. The peacemaker.
I learned early that being successful got me praise, being agreeable kept people happy, and being easy to love meant not being too much, too needy, too emotional, too inconvenient.
So I became a chameleon.
I could read a room in seconds and shape-shift into whoever I thought people wanted me to be. I said yes when I wanted to say no. I avoided conflict like my life depended on it. I worried constantly about disappointing people. I became an expert at taking care of everyone else while quietly abandoning myself.
The problem is, when you spend years shape-shifting, people-pleasing, achieving, and putting everyone else's needs ahead of your own, eventually there's a cost. You may find yourself burned out, emotionally numb, depressed, sky-rocketing anxiety, disconnected from your body.... wondering how you ended up living a life that looks fine on the outside but doesn't feel like yours on the inside.
My healing journey taught me something I wish every woman knew:
therapist, MS, AMFT
Hi, I'm Cassandra Amantite
My Story ~ I've been there too
that's why I do this work.